The foundation of a healthy relationship is built on each person knowing and expressing their true wants/authentic needs. In order to find your true want, you need to find the courage to be vulnerable, ask for what you want, communicate clearly, be a good listener, compromise and negotiate, and recognize that a relationship is a living document that frequently needs updating.
If you are in a relationship where you regularly agree to things you don’t want to do/experience/feel and thereby sacrificing your own needs just to please/comfort/calm or satisfy the other person’s needs, then you are continuously letting your boundaries be crossed. Relationships that are based on weak boundaries and unclear communication can go on for quite sometime, chipping away at your confidence and happiness, until one day you’ve lost your way and your voice.
It is always okey to ask for what you want. Sometimes you don't get it.
When you don't get what you ask for, then how do you know where you are willing to compromise and where you are not? And when you do know, how do you find the courage to choose what is your true want?
“YOU DON'T NEED SOMEONE TO COMPLETE YOU. YOU ONLY NEED SOMEONE TO ACCEPT YOU COMPLETELY.”